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DISCUSSION QUESTIONS FOR VIDEO
You can view the free video here.
1. Larry Gatlin spoke about his denial. Have you experienced denial, or
minimizing, around your own or others' addiction? Has your family been in
denial or minimized the alcoholism and/or other-drug problems in the family?
2. If you are a healthcare professional/teacher/clergyperson -- have you
experienced denial in yourself when you saw alcoholism and/or other-drug
abuse in colleagues or someone you were helping?
3. When Ron Shapiro spoke about his fears when he did interventions with
famous clients -- and when the family group on the video talked then, also,
about their fears about talking about addiction in the family -- did you
identify with those fears about talking about alcoholism and/or other drugs
with your family? Was it due to fear of that person's anger? Was it due to
fear of losing that person? Fear they'd leave or pull away from you,
4. If you are a healthcare or other professional who encounters addiction in
patients or clients, do any of the following fears ring true: fear of
losing income if that person "stormed out angrily" (or just quietly never
returned) if you brought up the subject of possible or probable addiction?
fear of peers or others saying that "you've become the type of person who is
always talking about alcoholism in everyone"? (even if you realize that the
scoffers are often your colleagues whose drinking stands out, on the
occasions you've gotten together?).
5. If you are an adult child of an alcoholic, are you aware that unless we
have received specific treatment for our patterns of
family-of-origin-alcoholism, we carry denial, perfectionism, and shame into
our adult relationships at home and work?
6. Do any of the following sentences ring true: "I'm past all that stuff. I
grew up with an alcoholic parent, and I don't need any help now. I'm a big
achiever; I go to church; I don't drink or drug. I don't have any patterns
in me from an alcoholic family that I can't deal with myself. Yes, it is
true, I'll admit, that I am a perfectionist; a workaholic; maybe I have a lot
of held-in anger; I find myself emotionally swinging a lot with people:
going from liking somebody or feeling sorry for them, and wanting to rescue
them, and then being angry with them when they don't act right -- wanting to
rescue them and wanting to punish them a bit------- But what in the world
does this have to do with my childhood growing up with an alcoholic parent?"
"Yes, my dad/mom was alcoholic, probably; and yes, I married an alcoholic;
but I'll not do THAT again!" If any of these sentences ring a bell, are you
willing to try 6 or 8 free meetings to see if any of these groups might help
heal your life now? Call the information operator in your town, or see the
Yellow Pages and call for help: Al-Anon (for families of alcoholics, even if
you don't live there anymore); Al-Ateen (for your children who grew up with
an alcoholic or other-drug-addicted parent). And if you think you MIGHT have
a problem with drinking, call Alcoholics Anonymous to find out. These
programs are all free-of-charge.
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